I'm so honored to welcome back returning guest, Julie Coons, to this episode of the Beyond Your Past Podcast. Julie first joined me back in October 2017, to discuss her upcoming book at the time, This Does Not Leave This House. That was an incredible show, and the first time that I was introduced to Julie, and learned more about her amazing and heart wrenching story of being a survivor.
Julie tells us that the inspiration for the title of her book, “This does not leave this house”, comes from being raised in a family where she was told regularly by her father, "what goes on in this house, stays in this house, it was their family secret and nobody’s business but theirs."
As outlined on JulieCoons.com -
Raised by an abusive, narcissistic mother (who once tried to trick her into having an abortion), Julie Coons was also raped in college by a stranger and later married an abusive man who threatened to kill her if she ever tried to leave. Suffering from physical and mental torment resulting in very low self-esteem, Julie often felt so completely alone during the many struggles of her life that she tried to take her own life.
This book is her true story—telling all the secrets she was never allowed to tell to encourage and motivate others to heal their own lives and break the cycle of abuse. Her story shows that there is hope and life after abuse. Now that the secrets are finally out, Julie has found freedom.
So can you.
This Does Not Leave This House is a raw, poignant, and secret-revealing memoir written to lead a movement to break the silence of abuse and finally end its vicious cycle. With strength and resiliency, Coons provides a voice for the silent abused, letting them know they’re not alone. Justice and hope can prevail. The abused can become victorious. Read the heartbreaking true story of her journey to triumph above overwhelming obstacles.
I wanted to bring her back to see how things have been going since the release of her book, and discuss more of how her life has changed, the struggles she's faced and the trials that she's overcome and used as a learning experience throughout the process. As you listen to our chat, we'll discuss many topics, including:
Expecting backlash from her family, and what it was like to not get any at all.
The response of her friends who offered her incredible support and validation.
The struggles of being an author and a survivor of childhood trauma, including the memories that resurface while writing.
How writing a book is not necessarily as cathartic as you might think at the time, and in fact can be retraumatizing as old memories resurface and new ones come to light.
Dealing with reviews and comments, both positive and negative, and the struggles of not letting those define her or invalidate her story.
Updates on the situation with her mother and where she is now with those challenges.
Her new work of fiction, titled "Why She Lied", is in the works, and Julie shares how that book is coming along and why she's writing it.
All this and much more on this episode of the podcast is waiting for you, so grab those headphones or plug us into your car and join me as I chat with Julie.
I encourage you to check out JulieCoons.com for more information on her story, a link to buy the book on Amazon, and to sign up for her newsletter so you can stay in the know as she progresses on her new book.
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